Engaged Buddhism and Taoist Practice: Prison Zen, Service, and the Wisdom of Water

Heron Dance Issue 13, February 1997. A special issue on engaged practice, including an interview with Kobutsu Malone, the Rinzai Zen priest who taught zazen inside Sing Sing and served as spiritual advisor to Frankie Parker, a man executed the the state of Arkansas.

Frankie Parker and Kobutsu Kevin Malone

If we could see the miracle of a single flower clearly, our whole life would change.
    - Buddhist adage

Herman DeCosta was a Buddhist, the first I had known, who became a close friend of mine. Writer, philosopher, and teacher, we made many trips together and it was through him that I learned what Buddhism meant. Though I had read about its meanings, it was different living with someone who actually practiced the faith. Once I asked him to tell what its basic tenets were, and he replied, "Humbleness before God and nature, selflessness and tolerance in a world of bigotry and greed, simplicity in one of complexity."
    - Sigurd F. Olson, Reflections From The North Country

Worry is a problem that seems to be rampant. Perhaps it is due to the nature of our overly-advanced civilization; perhaps it is a measure of our own spiritual degeneracy....Even as we yearn for love, companionship and communion, we constantly defeat ourselves by questioning, asserting ourselves at the wrong times, or letting hatred and pride cloud our perceptions. Our alienation is self-generated.
    - Deng Ming-Dao, 365 Tao

Mind is the forerunner of all actions. All deeds are led by mind, created by mind. If one speaks or acts with a corrupt mind, suffering follows, as the wheel follows the hoof of an ox pulling a cart.
    - The Dhammapada, a Buddhist holy book

Kobutsu Kevin Malone: Teaching Zen in Sing Sing

I heard of Kobutsu Kevin Malone through an inmate at Woodburne Correctional. He came up to me near the end of a workshop there, handed me Kobutsu's card and told me he was someone I should talk to. He was gruff on the phone, but I later found him to be surprisingly jovial and warm in person -- "a two hundred and fifty pound Irishman with a shaved head" as he later described himself to me. We met on a beautiful early spring day at the sparsely-furnished townhome in suburban New Jersey that he shares with his wife and two children.

Kobutsu is a Rinzai Zen Buddhist priest. He teaches Zen in Sing Sing, a maximum security prison in New York. He was also the spiritual advisor to Frankie Parker, an inmate executed by the State of Arkansas on August 8, 1996. He told me that he volunteers in prisons because, "I get something very special out of it. I go on Monday evenings after work. I may have gotten up at 5 am and been on the road by 6. It's often hard to drag myself to the prison but it may be the only time I get to sit in a particular week. I find that I am appreciated in there. Appreciated because I am not a guard, not a threat, and have no axe to grind. You can feel their gratitude."

Then he thought for a moment and said, "I have always lived on the borderline. I know a lot of criminals and have an affinity and understanding of them." When I asked him if he had ever done time himself, he told me that he had been incarcerated for two weeks in the D.C. jail when he was 18, and that he had been raped. "I know what goes along with prisons," he said.

Kevin's interest in Buddhism grew out of his involvement, in the sixties, with psychedelics and consciousness expansion. Years later, after a divorce and mid-life crisis, he took refuge in a Buddhist monastery where a good friend was the head monk and vice-abbot. While there he reaffirmed his commitment to Zen. "I came to the realization that in order to maintain my own sanity and peace of mind, I had to be of assistance to somebody somewhere. It was a life and death kind of thing."

I asked Kobutsu what his first prison sessions were like. "The first time I was inside Sing Sing, some inmates asked me to set up an outside corporation, get a post office box, and put an ad in the newspaper so that people would send in money. You are in prison. What can you do? You occupy space. You pass the time. You manipulate. You con. That is part of it. So I said to them 'I'm here to teach zazen meditation. The rest of this crap -- forget it. I'm not interested.' The group immediately shrank from eight to one....Nevertheless, I've had more trouble from guards than I've ever had from inmates. Do I want negative things said about that? No. I'm not stupid. But the prison system is ineffective. Eighty-five percent of inmates are there for drug-related offenses. If the laws were changed so that the profit margin was taken out of the business, we'd have a lot of empty prisons. The other 15%, who are in for violent offenses, need to be educated. Show them how to read and write....

"In the beginning, I'd go in and sit quietly for two hours and then say hello and leave. We'd sit on ratty old blankets swiped from the laundry. It was pretty bad. The floor was filthy. The blankets got our butts off the floor and our knees on the mat, but cushions are a lot better. Eventually I asked the administration if I could bring some cushions in. I sent them pictures of what we wanted. They refused saying that they were articles of worship and we were not a religious group.' I told them, 'We don't worship the things, we sit on them.' 'Well, you are not a religious group.' Next question, 'How do we become a religious group?' 'You have to have a sufficient number of men.' 'What is a sufficient number?' 'We'll let you know when you reach it.'

"The group grew to five inmates. For months, I tried to convince the administration to let me bring in proper cushions. I started out as the quiet, unassuming Buddhist practitioner. When that didn't work, we started preparing a lawsuit. Shortly thereafter we were notified that we were now a recognized religious group, and that yes we could have our cushions. With donated money we bought ten zafus -- the round sitting cushions -- and ten zabutons, the padded floor mats that go under the zafus. They allowed the black zafus, but they were concerned that the inmates might use the black fabric from the zabutons to escape at night. When I asked what colors were acceptable, they said there are none, but there are a bunch of unacceptable colors. Black, blue, grey, anything resembling the color of the guards clothes, anything orange resembling the SWAT team uniform was prohibited. The only thing the inmates are allowed to wear are these green, industrial-type clothes with elastic waste-bands. So now we have a very unique Zen-do with green zabutons. Who cares? They are a nice green. Touch of the Irish. And as time went on, we asked for other things and we eventually got what we asked for. So it worked well."

When I asked Kobutsu how he defined Zen, and about the role of sitting meditation in Zen practice, he gave me a suitably vague answer. "I am still trying to figure Zen out. Above all else, Zen is about sitting practice -- not talking about sitting practice....Our Buddhist studies class in Sing Sing is a lot more popular than the sitting practice sessions. The practice sessions are difficult to do. It hurts. It's painful. No one likes being uncomfortable."

I asked Kobutsu if discomfort adds value to practice. His response:

"Discomfort goes with the territory. From a Zen perspective being able to withdraw and observe discomfort from a distance is empowering. No matter how we approach the teachings, we think that we have the spiritual path all figured out. We think that life should be about abundance and truth and beauty and peace. We will live happily ever after. That preconceived idea is sooner or later confronted when you do zazen....Spirituality has to be de-mystified. Take out the magic. Take out the wishful thinking. Remove it. Get rid of it. Concentrate on breath."

I asked Kobutsu what he says to inmates when they first walk into a practice session. "'Sit down. Shut up. Keep still. Count your breath.' No matter who they are, what they say, or what they've done. 'Sit down. Shut up. Keep still. Count your breath from one to ten. One...two...three...four...' At around three or four a stray thought comes along. 'What am I doing here? My left leg is falling asleep. My butt hurts. My back hurts. How can these other people sitting in the zen-do do this? Oh, oh. I am supposed to be counting my breath.' A beginner may go through this ten thousand times. Those distractions help us gain an understanding of the functioning of the mind, of the nature of the problem.

"Someone starting out does that for maybe a month. Maybe six months. Maybe a year. At some point, I'll say `Follow your breathing. Do everything you do when you count your breath but don't use numbers.' The process is difficult to clearly identify, but breathing and counting ties up the intellectual working of the brain. It's a method of moving through the Buddha mind. All these practices are about waking up. Focusing. Creating openness. Spaciousness.

"Sooner or later we are able to stand back somewhat from our thoughts and recognize thought forms as they arise in the mind. We start to see the spaciousness between ourselves and our thoughts. We watch the thoughts rise and then leave by themselves. Spontaneously. We don't necessarily have to do anything at all except step back. Eventually we notice that our thought forms are like boxcars in a train. There is a boxcar, space, a boxcar and a space. Over time, the mechanism of spontaneous thought generation actually slows down and we see the space between the thoughts. This is our initial perception of the Buddha mind. In fact, it has been there all along."

When I asked Kobutsu if there is particular value to zazen in prison -- if stepping back and watching and waiting for the space between the thoughts has significance for people who act impulsively and violently. His answer surprised me a little.

"I don't know. I appreciate where your question is coming from, but any value, from a Buddhist perspective, is a side-effect. It is probably not a good idea to come into the practice thinking that you will reap some preconceived benefit such as becoming less violent. You might get one individual who starts doing zazen and confronts some serious psychological issues that have been buried and suppressed. During the zazen practice, these could come up. It could even produce a violent response. I don't know."

When I asked Kobutsu why inmates get interested in Zen, he answered: "In the beginning, the motivations are not always noble. Many just want to be different. To be a somebody. 'I am going to do this because it's weird.' or 'I am going to do this because the administration probably doesn't like it.' For others, Zen is monastic. They have time on their hands. Their food, shelter, clothing and medical care are all provided. The dental work they get isn't great, but it's better than I get. So prison can be a good opportunity for practice. There are people in there seriously interested in change.

"As time goes on, Zen can be a factor in change. Practice has been described by a Tibetan teacher as the wearing out of an old pair of shoes. Wearing the soles thin. Wearing through ego and delusion. You may approach Zen thinking that you are going to become enlightened, become a great teacher and have fantastic powers that people will respect. Doing the practice, you come to realize that you don't give a damn whether people respect you or not. You really don't want to be a great teacher. What you want is to be helpful. To be of assistance. You wear through your initial set of notions and come to understand that fundamentally you are a benevolent entity -- a Boddhisattva -- one who has surrendered his own enlightenment, postponed his own enlightenment, for the benefit of others. It is sort of a second stage practice. The initial stage involving breathing, concentration, the tethered mind ultimately results in the Boddhisattva path, the path of being of assistance. And it is not a simple-minded compassion. It is real compassion.

"What's the difference between real and simple-minded compassion?"

"Simple-minded compassion would be like saying: 'From my high spiritual plane I am going to look down and offer wisdom to all of these poor creatures and bring them up to my level.' True compassion comes from recognizing that we all have the same problems. It's not that I have overcome my problems and now I am going to help you with yours. It's more like we both have a problem. There is no division between your problems and my problems. It's all our problem."

Frankie Parker: A Buddhist on Arkansas Death Row

In March 1996 Kobutsu received a letter from an inmate on death row in Arkansas. The inmate, Frankie Parker, was awaiting his execution, then scheduled for May 29th, 1996. He had just received a copy of the Gateway Journal, a newsletter published by Kobutsu. Parker's letter didn't ask for anything, which surprised Kobutsu. In fact, the letter contained these lines, "My deluded ignorance will cause my death....What I have coming in May is simply what I have due." In November 1984, Frankie, an army veteran, shot and killed his in-laws and wounded two others, including a police officer, during a drinking and cocaine free-basing spree. He was later to describe himself, when he arrived on death row, as "a mad and mean and very cruel inmate." He was put in "the Hole" for abusive language. While there, a disgruntled guard threw him a copy of the Dhammapada (a Buddhist holy book) when he asked for a Bible, the only book officially allowed in "the Hole." Over the next two years, Frankie read a number of books on Buddhism, became a practicing Buddhist and finally, four days before he was executed, an ordained monk. He tried to live a life that embodied compassion.

Kobutsu describes Parker as an excellent teacher in prison. "He had a major calming influence on death row. Many people respected him highly. Even guards would bow to him." So many inmates and guards wanted to testify at his clemency hearing that prison officials are reported to have put a limit on the number. The Dalai Lama, Mario Cuomo, and many others wrote the Governor of Arkansas asking that Frankie's sentence be commuted to life imprisonment. The execution was postponed by Governor Guy Tucker, but for reasons related to his own trial and subsequent conviction for Whitewater-related crimes.

When the new governor, a Baptist minister, took office on July 15, 1996, almost immediately he moved Frankie's execution up from September 17 to August 8. Executions, especially of "Buddhist devil-worshipers," generate votes. Kobutsu spent the week prior to the first scheduled date, May 29, and the four days prior to August 8 with Frankie Parker as his spiritual advisor, and was present at the execution.

In his publication, Gateway Journal, Kobutsu described Frankie's final few minutes of life: "At 8:47 I was told to prepare for the arrival of the 'tie-down team....' The 'team' arrived at 8:50. The men who poured into the 'quiet cell' area were big, dressed in black body armor, black helmets with face shields and black boots. Two of them arrived brandishing large, full body riot shields with the letters 'POLICE' emblazoned across them. We continued chanting together, 'I take refuge in the Buddha. I take refuge in the Dharma, I take refuge in the Sangha...' (Sangha is a Buddhist community). Jusan (Parker) 'assumed the position' at the back wall of his cell. They entered the cell, men with shields covered him from each side, others chained his legs, wrapped chain around his waist, cuffed his hands and locked the handcuffs in front to the chain. 'I take refuge in the Buddha, I take refuge in the Dharma, I take refuge in the Sangha....'

"We were guided into the short hallway that comprised `the last mile.' The hall was lined with men dressed in black wearing helmets and boots, the hall itself was no more than 15 feet long. We approached our `shrine,' it was a cardboard box, covered with a piece of felt on which rested a small brass Buddha figure. Our chanting continued, we turned to face the Buddha and bowed once. We bowed in reverence for the awakened state of mind that manifests in all beings. We took four more steps and were halted by the men in command. We had arranged to be able to bow to each other three times and to embrace before he entered the `death chamber.' I turned around to face Jusan, we were still chanting. We bowed three times, one for the Buddha, one for the Dharma and one for the Sangha. We stopped chanting, the next few seconds was `our time.' I looked directly into his face, I saw a single tear glisten as it rolled from his right eye down his cheek. I could see every pore of his skin, each individual hair in his goatee, the colors of those hairs in a salt and pepper mix. I saw his wonderful smile, I could feel waves of tremendous gratitude pour from his heart. Time stopped...There was only Jusan and Kobutsu, two old friends saying good-by at the end of the road. No one else was present in all creation at that moment, time dilated to an infinite degree...we are still there, saying good-by, forever....

"We embraced, he whispered in my ear, `I love you my brother. Thank you so much.' I took one step backward and we did an `unauthorized' bow to each other, as we bowed our foreheads touched. The impact of forehead on forehead was the last contact we made. It was shocking to me...yet incredibly apropos. It was 8:51 pm, real-time, our chanting resumed, `I take refuge in the Buddha, I take refuge in the Dharma, I take refuge in the Sangha...' The men at my sides quickly ushered me out a side door, as Jusan was propelled into the `death chamber'. When I stepped outside, I saw the waiting hearse, I felt totally empty. I was brought around the small `death house' building to the entrance of the viewing room' at the top of a short flight of steps. After a brief delay, I was allowed in....

"At 9:01 the curtains abruptly opened and there was an intense visual shock as the bright light of the `death chamber,' with its clinically white walls and furnishings flooded into the `viewing room.' To my left in the `death chamber,' Jusan was restrained to a gurney, both arms tied to supports extending diagonally from the gurney. His head was held in place and prevented from moving by two vertical planes and a forehead strap. He remained perfectly still, he kept his eyes closed. According to Warden Reed, the last thing that Jusan saw was a picture of the Buddha held by his executioner, the Director of the Department of Correctional Services, Mr. Larry Norris. Warden Reed said that before the curtains opened Mr. Norris showed Jusan the picture, he closed his eyes and nodded to indicate that he had seen the picture.

"At the rear of the `death gurney' there were two intravenous solution stands each with a plastic IV bag containing liquids, it was not clear that these bags contained the poison or were physiological saline to maintain the IV line entering Jusan's right arm....Mr. Larry Norris stood behind Jusan, dressed in a dark business suit, and wearing a headset equipped with a microphone. On the wall was a large digital clock that displayed the time in bright red numerals. To his right was the `one-way' mirror, behind which sat the two anonymous executioners, isolated from each other. These people actually push the buttons to start the flow of poison into the veins of the helpless human being strapped to the table....the coroner has pronounced Sifu William Parker dead at 9:04 pm...." The death certificate, issued by the State of Arkansas Department of Health indicated that the cause of death was "Homicide."

After the execution, the warden said to Kobutsu: "I think you helped us immensely in keeping him so calm." Kobutsu responded, "Let's get this straight. My being there was not for your benefit. It was for his benefit. I did not assist in calming him down for you. That was for him. From my perspective this is murder. This is wrong." The warden then said, "Well, it's the law." This is an excerpt from Frankie's final statement:

"I pray that others who have committed heinous crimes may find the small light that I have kindled an inspiration, and spread the flame of compassion to illuminate the entire universe, so that all beings may realize the fundamental compassionate nature that resides in all of us."

The next morning Kobutsu went over to the crematorium and conducted the death rites -- the blessing and incensing of the body. He opened the box and removed Jusan's Rakusu and his beads, and lifted Jusan's head. "I saw all the purple contusions produced by the drugs in the death process. His body was so cold. Then he was put in the oven and we chanted and bowed and burned incense as the body was cremated. From there we went to a radio station and did an hour on the air. People calling in were so abusive that the lady answering the phone quit for the day. People showed up at the radio station and pounded on the door trying to get at me. Liz (Kobutsu's wife) and I got out of there as quickly as we could. After that, I went alone down to Tucker, the death row facility, to meet with three other inmates. I was allowed by the warden to walk the entire row. I walked from cell to cell and met and shook hands with each inmate."

I asked Kobutsu what he says to others who are performing the role of spiritual advisor when they seek advice. "Be there one hundred percent for the inmate. Be prepared to be run over by a freight train. Part of you will die with him. If you are a prison chaplain, find another pastor, minister, a priest, a nun, a rabbi, a monk because you are working for the people doing the killing. Find someone else....Part of your duty after witnessing something like this is to carry the memory of the executed inmate with you, and to speak out. You can't do that if you are an employee."

After the execution, I asked Kobutsu how the experience affected his life. "I watched Frankie Parker die and I watched America die in my heart. I watched my country commit murder. Whether he was a good or bad human being or whatever, they strapped a helpless human being to a table and killed him. Every single death row inmate is a human being. We can't lose sight of that. No matter what they've done. Killing is the problem, not the solution."

Would you be the spiritual advisor to another inmate, I asked, "I don't know. The execution still impacts me in many different ways, and on many different levels: psychologically, emotionally. It has also been difficult financially. We ran up huge phone bills calling people all over the world asking for support for Jusan. We flew down there twice and stayed in a hotel. We sent out mailings. My assets are basically an old beat up car and a couple boxes of tools. Some junky furniture. The toll of this work was considerable, not only financially but also psychologically. But if another inmate asked, I would do it. I don't think I could refuse. "

I then asked Kobutsu about the Buddhist position on killing people. His answer: "We take precepts, the first of which is that all life is sacred. So this Zen Buddhist does not kill. I am quite capable of being violent and killing but I consciously choose not to. I had a choice to stand next to my friend during his execution, and I made that choice. The last few minutes of his life were carried on in an extremely graceful and serene manner. We did the best we could with what we had to work with, which is all any of us can do at any time. The death part, well, you know, worrying about that isn't going to help anything here and now. Am I worried about going to heaven or hell? No. I've been enough heaven and enough hell here on earth to know that I have to deal with the present."

On January 8, 1997 the State of Arkansas executed three men in the same night. An aide to the Governor said "as long as we had two, you might as well put three in there." Another said three executions were "cheaper and more beneficial." A spokeswoman for the Department of Corrections said: "The money isn't a significant factor. It is the emotional toll on everyone involved. Better one night of tension in the prison than three."

When I asked Kobutsu if we could learn anything from his experience, he said: "Turn off the television. Get off your butt and out of your rut. Do something to help people. Everybody. It doesn't have to be prison work. It can be any one of a million things. Go work in a shelter, go work in a food bank. For a couple of hours a week volunteer as a literacy tutor. Volunteer in a nursing home. Do it because it is good. That's enough."

Rev. Kobutsu Malone can be reached at The Engaged Zen Foundation, PO Box 700, Ramsey, NJ. 07446-0700. Subscriptions to Gateway Journal are available through that address as well, in return for a contribution. People who are not inmates pay, on average, $25.


If you are in prison, think about how long you have been there, and then ask yourself honestly whether the prison or anyone in it is better off because you have been there... As Malcom X discovered in prison, there is soul-power in taking a True Path. The harder it is, the more soul-power we gain. If it weren't so hard, we wouldn't gain so much commitment, courage, and faith. If it weren't so hard, Jesus, Mohammed, Moses, Buddha and the rest would have preached to us from comfortable thrones instead of showing us the way through persecution, discomfort, rejection.
    - Bo Lozoff, Human Kindness Foundation newsletter, Spring 1995

Service, Compassion and the Journey Back to Unity

Separateness and unity. How interesting that these root causes, revealed in the experience of helping, turn out to be what most spiritual traditions define as the fundamental issue of life itself. Awakening from our sense of separateness is what we are called to do in all things, not merely in service. Whether these traditions speak of us as being cut off from God, Nature, Original Mind, True Being, the Tao, the Dharma -- they call on us, in one voice, to undertake the journey back to unity.

Service, from this perspective, is part of that journey. It is no longer an end in itself. It is a vehicle through which we read a deeper understanding of life. Each step we take, each moment in which we grow toward a greater understanding of unity, steadily transforms us into instruments of that help which truly heals.
    - Ram Dass and Paul Gorman, How Can I Help?


The sherpas are alert for ways in which to be of use, yet are never insistent, far less servile; since they are paid to perform a service, why not do it as well as possible? "Here sir! I will wash the mud!" "I carry that sir!" As George Schaller says, "When the going gets rough, they take care of you first." Yet their dignity is unassailable, for the service is rendered for its own sake -- it is the task, not the employer, that is served. As Buddhists, they know that the doing matters more than the attainment or reward, that to serve in this selfless way is to be free. Because of their belief in karma -- the principle of cause and effect that permeates Buddhism and Hinduism (and Christianity, for that matter: as ye sow, so shall ye reap) -- they are tolerant and non-judgmental, knowing that bad acts will receive their due without the intervention of the victim. The generous and open outlook of the sherpas, a kind of merry defenselessness, is by no means common, even among unsophisticated peoples; I have never experienced it before except among the Eskimos. And since, in prehistory, the nomadic Mongol ancestors of both Tibetans and native Americans are thought to have spread from the same region of northern Asia, I wonder if this sense of life is not a common heritage from the far past.
    - Peter Matthiessen, The Snow Leopard


The Buddha said that the biggest mistake we can make is to want to be loved. How much we are loved by others is often outside our power. But what is within our power is our choice to love others.
    - Bo Lozoff, Human Kindness Foundation newsletter, Christmas 1996


A set of precepts developed by the Vietnamese Buddhists begins with three injunctions: avoid dogmatism, remain open, and do not force your views on others. The first precept reads:

Do not be idolatrous about or bound to any doctrine, theory, or ideology, even Buddhist ones. Buddhist systems of thought are guiding means; they are not absolute truth.
    - From The Path of Compassion, Writings on Socially Engaged Buddhism


Zen is the only religion that demands creativity rather than conformity from its adherents, and which uncompromisingly rejects anything which they have begged or borrowed from a source other than themselves....Zen urges man on to find what is truly his, for in that alone does he possess something which neither principalities nor powers nor Buddha nor God can remove from him....Religion has most often served as a paradigm of the uncreative life, for in the overwhelming majority of its manifestations it has not encouraged individuality, freedom, and self-expression, but rather the opposites of these, namely, submission to authority, conformity to a law or a creed, the denying of self. This so-called religious life is the fragmented life, the life of posturing and insincerity, the life that stands aside and will not unite with things, the life that is uncreative and therefore un-holy because it is un-whole-some.

Zen has only one thing to say finally, and that is "To thine own self be true; thou canst not then be false to any man."...All of the procedures of Zen have the aim not of aligning man with a truth which transcends him but in awakening him to the living truth which is the Kingdom of Heaven within him. The life of authenticity, the life of integrity, the life of holiness or wholeness, the life of truth, the life of reality, the creative life, the life of freedom -- all these are for Zen equivalent expressions designating the same sort of life, which is, namely, the life emanating from the totality of what is.
    - Bernard Phillips, from the introduction to The Essentials of Zen Buddhism (edited)


The Buddha was challenged by other yogis and ascetics for having given up austerity: "You eat beautiful food that your followers put in your bowl each morning and wear a robe in which you cover yourself from the cold, while we eat a few grains of rice a day and lie without robes on beds of nails. What kind of a teacher and yogi are you? You are soft, weak, indulgent." The Buddha answered with a lion's roar. "I, too, have slept on nails; I've stood with my eyes open to the sun in the hot sands of the Ganges; I've eaten so little food that you couldn't fill one fingernail with the amount I ate each day. Whatever ascetic practices under the sun human beings have done, I, too, have done! Through them all I've learned that fighting against oneself through such practices is not the way."

Instead, the Buddha discovered what he called the Middle Way, a way not based on an aversion to the world, nor on attachment, but on inclusion and compassion. The Middle Way rests at the center of all things, the one great seat in the center of the world. On this seat the Buddha opened his eyes to see clearly and opened his heart to embrace all. Through this he completed the process of his enlightenment.
    - Jack Kornfield, A Path With Heart (edited)

From Most of All They Taught Me Happiness, by Robert Muller

When I worked for him, U Thant was for me not only the Secretary-General of the United Nations but also a master in the art of living....I never heard him speak ill of another person....I never heard him complain. Nor did I ever see him impatient or irritated. His capacity to endure the shortcomings and errors of other people was boundless. At nine or ten o'clock in the evening, after seeing dozens of visitors at quarter-of-an-hour intervals and after being bombarded by a succession of insistent problems, he was as calm and controlled as when he arrived in the office in the morning. Kindness, love, and understanding for his fellow humans were his sole motivations. Discipline and self-control were his ways.

Often, in the evening, when I presented him with a problem on which he was asked to make a decision, he simply remained silent. This was especially the case when difficulties arose between two heads of departments at the United Nations. Their memoranda requesting resolution often remained unanswered. U Thant was looking at me patiently with his kind eyes, hoping that I would understand his philosophy. And I finally did when one day I found myself holding the following conversation with two high officials, each of whom was looking to the Secretary General for total support:

"Can't you understand that U Thant will simply not make a decision in favor of either one of you? Your memoranda will be returned to you unanswered, no matter how often you raise the issue with him, unless you yourself take the initiative in proposing a common course of action. He feels that you know the answer to your problem much better than he does. You are well-trained and highly-skilled officials. You are expected to solve problems, not to create them. The UN is preaching understanding and accommodation among nations. This is the least that can be expected from its officers. U Thant wishes you to understand that the solution rests between the two of you."

To my great surprise, the two officials agreed to a mutual solution within minutes. Both had thought of a common course, but it was to be tried only if neither could score a full victory over the other!

During a very moving ceremony at the United Nations in December 1971, when he took a leave from the UN staff in the great General Assembly hall, U Thant suddenly put aside a written speech and said the following:

"As all of you must have been aware, I have certain priorities in regard to virtues and human values. As far as I am concerned, an ideal man or woman is one who is endowed with four attributes, four qualities: physical qualities, intellectual qualities, moral qualities, and spiritual qualities. Of course, it is very rare to find a human being who is endowed with all these qualities but, as far as priorities are concerned, I would attach greater importance to intellectual qualities over physical qualities. I would attach still greater importance to moral qualities over intellectual qualities but I am still trying to define my priorities. Moral qualities like love, compassion, understanding, tolerance, the philosophy of live and let live, the ability to understand the other man's point of view are the key to all great religions. And above all, I would attach the greatest importance to spiritual values, faith in oneself, the purity of one's inner self, which to me is the greatest virtue of all. With this approach, with this philosophy, with the concept alone, we will be able to fashion the kind of society we want, the kind of society which was envisaged by the founding fathers of the United Nations twenty-six years ago."

I have often turned to that statement and learned several lessons from it. I have come to believe that it contains indeed basic answers to many of our personal, social, national and world problems. I realize that, under the influence of Western education and values, my life had been directed too much to the material, scientific, and intellectual sides of life. My main concern was to "understand," to grasp with my brain, to think, to reason, and to help "rationally" build a "better" world. Perhaps this objective was why I lagged considerably behind with regard to moral and spiritual values. From the moment I included them in my objectives and gave a greater role to the heart and the soul, my life became richer, happier, and infinitely more satisfying. U Thant had simply reminded me of the basic teachings of my own Catholic faith and of the need to be guided by them during my entire life, as he was guided by his Buddhist faith....By practising kindness, tolerance, serenity and understanding, he applied his religion fully and give a living example of the four "noble truths" set down by Buddha:

    -All existence is suffering.
    -Suffering is caused by desire.
    -Desire can be suppressed.
    -The way to suppress desire is to follow the noble path involving conduct, right belief and right meditation.


The Dalai Lama has pointed out that communism worldwide did not work because it was not based on compassion and love; it was based on class struggle and dictatorial control, which in the end just doesn't work. Struggle and dictating doesn't work in our inner life either. So we must inquire what aspect of this repeated pattern is asking for acceptance and compassion, and ask ourself, "Can I touch with love whatever I have closed my heart to?" This doesn't mean solving it or figuring it out -- it is simply asking, "What wants acceptance?" In difficult patterns of thought, emotion, or sensation, we must open to feel their full energy in our body, heart, and mind, however strongly they show themselves.
    - Jack Kornfield, A Path With Heart

If there is one lesson that history teaches us, it is that wealth and power, pride and prestige, are not only transitory but illusory. It is understandable that the major powers should pursue objectives which seem to them to be in their own national interest; but they should not be blind to the existence of a larger goal....They should at least occasionally pause to reflect on the course of history, which has seen the rise and fall of so many great empires. Generations will come to judge the conduct of those in positions of authority today by the effect that their actions had on the course of human peace and progress.
    - U Thant, from a speech at the University of Toronto, Canada, 1967

It is my wish that the spiritual power of peace will touch the mind of every person on this earth, radiating out from a deep peace within our own minds, across political and religious barriers, across the barriers of ego and conceptual righteousness. Our first work as peacemakers is to clear our minds of mental conflicts caused by ignorance, anger, grasping, jealousy and pride.

...the essential difference in peacemakers and warmakers is that peacemakers have discipline and control over egotistical anger, grasping, jealousy, and pride, while warmakers, in their ignorance, manifest the results of these poisons in the world -- if you truly understand this you will never allow yourself to be defeated from within or without.

...As you meet the powerful, worldly men who sit at the top of the war machines, regard them with strict equanimity. Convince them as effectively as you know how, but be constantly aware of your own state of mind. If you begin to experience anger, retreat. If you can go on without anger, perhaps you will penetrate the terrible delusion that causes war and all its hellish sufferings.
    - Chagdud Tulku, a Tibetan Buddhist lama and physician, from The Path of Compassion, Writings on Socially Engaged Buddhism

To be honest we should confess that most of us are twentieth century waifs, rootless, and as attached to liberal white values as anyone else.
    - Gary Snyder, The Real Work, Interviews and Talks: 1964-1979

Journal Notes: A Light Stroke, Executed With Finesse

The highest motive in life is to be like water. It fights nothing or no one. It flows from and back to its source and in the flowing smooths and wears away all resistance.
    - Taoist proverb


Water is a mysterious substance. A magical substance that flows through our fingers, constantly in search of the ocean. All life depends on water. Life flows over and around waterfalls and rocks. Life contains obstacles we go over or around and then pools of rest -- but always, inexorably moving toward the ocean -- the universal consciousness. Then, heated by the sun, it rises up and returns to the beginning again.

We each have a spiritual current that runs through our lives -- a brook. Connected to that current, our work, our life, has power. I constantly ask myself: What is my relationship to that current? Am I letting it guide me or am I forcing my will upon my life? It is so easy to lose touch with that current. When I am connected, my life has a flow. The most amazing things happen. Help comes my way, I meet "fellow-travelers," people whose energy supports mine and we both come away reinforced. Doors open. Bills get paid. In a good month I spend about a third of my time in that state of synchronicity.

When you turn your back on the current of your life, you are on your own. You are coming at life believing that you are strong enough, powerful enough on your own. The other way is to come at life from a place of humility.

Rest certainly plays a role: Do I put living a spiritual life ahead of deadlines and achieving some tangible goal? Silence certainly plays a role. Being in touch with the spiritual current means first being able to listen to oneself, being in sync with oneself. You need silence to get there. Work of the spirit requires strength of spirit.
    - Journal Note


Of all the elements, the sage should take water as the preceptor
Water is yielding but all-conquering.
Water extinguishes Fire, or finding itself likely to be defeated, escapes as steam and reforms.
Water washes away soft Earth, or when confronted with rocks, seeks a way around.
Water corrodes Iron till it crumbles to dust, it saturates the atmosphere so that Wind dies.
Water gives way to obstacles with deceptive humility, for no power can prevent it following its destined course to the sea.
Water conquers by yielding, it never attacks but always wins the last battle.
The sage who acts as water, is distinguished by humility, embraces passivity, acts from non-action, and conquers the world.
    - Tao Te Ching, edited


Perhaps the best river runners are Taoists at heart. Taoism considers a person wise if he accommodates himself to the rhythms of the universe. Likewise, a boater is wise if he accommodates himself to the river's flow: He must paddle with the water, not against it. Through practice and sensitivity comes an intuitive understanding of the water's way. One important Taoist principle is wu-wei, which literally means "not-doing." In practice, wu-wei means letting things be themselves and not forcing them. This does not imply non-action; rather, there is an understanding of how to take the path of least resistance and apply one's strength correctly. This principle is embodied in the martial arts of judo and aikido. It is analogous to cutting up a chicken in the best way: Instead of using a dull knife and cutting through the bones, the wise butcher will use a finely honed blade and apply the needed force at the joints. The boater who understands water does not attempt to force his way through rapids, fighting the water and seeking to overcome it. Rather, he applies his strength at the proper moment and in the most efficient way. A light stroke, executed with finesse, will do more to control the craft than any amount of determined but insensitive flailing. The process is explained by Chuang-tzu, a fourth-century B.C. Taoist sage. He tells the story of an old man who fell into a terrible rapid and emerged safely downstream. When asked to explain his survival, the man replied,


Plunging into the whirl, I come out with the swirl. I accommodate myself to the water, not the water to me. And so I am able to deal with it after this fashion...I was born upon the land...and accommodated myself to dry land. That was my original condition. Growing up with the water, I accommodate myself to the water.
    - Christopher Norment, In The North Of Our Lives


Verlen Kruger is a river runner and canoe-adventurer extraordinaire. He has canoed almost ninety thousand miles all over North and South America, including up the Grand Canyon. Many of his trips start or end from the river that runs past his backyard in Lansing, Michigan. During our interview, he said: "A person who travels the length of a river learns something about himself. It is an experience everyone should have, at least once. Start from where several trickles get together to form a creek. The creeks get together and become a river. The river comes from somewhere and it goes somewhere. Where does it go? Can I go along? I cannot look at a river without wondering where the water is going. Ultimately it goes where all good waters go -- to the great sea beyond." (Verlen hand builds expedition canoes. For information, see the back page).


I am only a ferryman, and it is my task to take people across this river. I have taken thousands of people across and to all of them my river has been nothing but a hindrance on their journey. They have travelled for money and business, to weddings and on pilgrimages; but the river has been in their way and the ferryman was there to take them quickly across the obstacle. However, amongst the thousands there have been a few, four or five, to whom the river was not an obstacle. They have heard its voice and listened to it, and the river has become holy to them, as it has to me....

Have you learned the secret from the river; that there is no such thing as time?...That the river is everywhere at the same time, at the source and at the mouth, at the waterfall, at the ferry, at the current, in the ocean and in the mountains, everywhere, and the present only exists for it, not the shadow of the past, nor the shadow of the future?

This discovery had made him very happy. Was then not all sorrow in time, all self-torment and fear in time? Were not all difficulties and evil in the world conquered as soon as one conquered time, as soon as one dispelled time?
    - Hermann Hesse, Siddhartha (edited)


A couple of years ago, in Middlebury Vermont, I interviewed Alan Coulter, river runner, Outward Bound instructor and ex-Peace Corp volunteer. When I asked him about his longstanding interest in Zen Buddhism, he responded, "Mine is sort of a maverick practice. I haven't stayed with one teacher or really pursued it. Slow to bite, I guess. But the basis of Buddhism, as I understand it, is a direct connection and experience of spirit, of our true nature, unmediated by thought. The idea is that prayer, reading and study are all fine ritual, but the basis is clearing the mind. When the mind is clear of thought, the way is open for experiencing one's connection with all that is. That can happen in the woods or the city or wherever one is. Maybe wherever, but not necessarily whenever....

"There is something earthy and basic with Zen. Fairly simple and unencumbered with stuff. Sure there is a hierarchy and there are monks and lay people and different sects, but the basis is still the individual and his or her experience of spirit." I asked Alan how he defined spirit. "As I perceive it, spirit is the basis of our living. Our own spirit is a tiny part of the giant amorphous spirit. There is an underlying basis behind this physical world, something that is intangible. Whether it has intention or not, doesn't matter to me. I do feel that there is an ideal way of being in the world -- a connection with spirit -- and that most of us, myself included, are not typically there. Or maybe we are, but we are ignorant of it....Spirit is the absence of ego. Spirit is the connection with all people, all animals -- it is all the same, the way I look at it."


Excerpts From the Tao Te Ching, Translated by Stephen Mitchell

He who clings to his work
will create nothing that endures.


The Master does his job
and then stops.
He understands that the universe
is forever out of control,
and that trying to dominate events
goes against the current of the Tao.


Because he believes in himself,
he doesn't try to convince another.
Because he is content with himself,
he doesn't need others' approval.
Because he accepts himself,
the whole world accepts him.


Do your work, then step back.
The only path to serenity.

Knowing others is intelligence;
knowing yourself is true wisdom.
Mastering others is strength;
mastering yourself is true power.

I have just three things to teach:
simplicity, patience, compassion.

On Stillness, Desire and the Clear Mind

Desire blinds us, like the pickpocket who sees only the saint's pockets.
    - Buddhist adage

Life lives on life. We all eat and are eaten. When we forget this, we cry; when we remember this, we can nourish one another.
    - Buddhist adage


If you let cloudy water settle, it will become clear. If you let your upset mind settle, your course will also become clear.
    - Buddhist adage


Change is inevitable. Growth is optional.
    - Buddhist adage


If you can only rid yourselves of conceptual thought, you will have accomplished everything. But even though you strive for this eon after eon, you will never accomplish it.
    - Huang Po

It has never been more difficult to hear the unflattering voice of the truth -- and never more difficult, once having heard it, to follow it -- because there is nothing in the world around us that supports that choice.
    - Sogyal Rinpoche, as quoted in The Sun

I never get lost because I don't know where I'm going.
    - Zen master Ikkyu, as quoted in The Sun


...Lama Trunghpa Rimpoche described spiritual progress from the ego's point of view as "one insult after another."
    - Jack Kornfield, A Path With Heart


There is no effort that we can make to still ourselves. True stillness comes naturally from moments of solitude where we allow our minds to settle. Just as water seeks its own level, the mind will gravitate toward the holy. Muddy water will become clear if allowed to stand undisturbed, and so too will the mind become clear if it is allowed to be still.
    - Deng Ming-Dao, 365 Tao, Daily Meditations

Monks and nuns in both Buddhism and Christianity practice prayer, meditation, mindful walking, silent meals, and many other ways to overcome suffering. It is a kind of luxury to be a monk or a nun, to be able to sit quietly and look deeply into the nature of suffering and the way out. Sitting and looking deeply into your body, your consciousness, and your mental states is like being a mother hen covering her eggs. One day insight will be born like a baby chick. If monks and nuns do not cherish their time of practice, they will have nothing to offer the world.
    - Thich Nhat Hanh, Living Buddha, Living Christ

...meditation masters, monks who spend their lives in the forests, are very very important for us and for society. Even those of us who are in society must return to these masters from time to time and look within. We must practice our meditation, our prayer, at least every morning or evening. In the crises of the present day, those of us who work in society, who confront power and injustice daily, often get beaten down and we become tired. At least once a year, we need to go to a retreat center to regain our spiritual strength, so we can return to confront society. Spiritual masters are like springs of fresh water.
    - Sulak Sivaraksa, Director of the Pridi Banomyong Institute and author of Religion and Development, A Buddhist Vision for Renewing Society and Siamese Resurgence, from The Path of Compassion

Vimala Thakar has been a meditation teacher in India and Europe for many years. In many ways, she is a Dharma heir to Krishnamurti. After she had been working in rural development for many years, Krishnamurti asked her to begin to teach, and she became a powerful and much-loved meditation teacher. Then she returned to her rural development work, teaching meditation considerably less. I asked her, "Why did you go back to rural development and helping the hungry and homeless after teaching meditation?" and she was insulted by my question. She said, "Sir," -- as Krishnamurti does -- "I am a lover of life, sir, and I make no distinction between serving people who are starving and have no dignity in their physical lives and serving people who are fearful and closed and have no dignity in their mental lives. There is no difference to me. I love all of life and the way that I give is to respond to whatever is presented to me."
    - Jack Kornfield, The Path of Compassion, Writings on Socially Engaged Buddhism


If I could define enlightenment briefly I would say it is "the quiet acceptance of what is." No judgement, no anger or bitterness, no hostility or remorse but a quiet willingness to go with it rather than to fight it....

The silent empty invisible space that is within all form is called the Tao. It is written that the Tao that can be described is not the Tao. It is beyond description, beyond language, beyond symbols. Paradoxically, it is a part of everything.
    - Wayne W. Dyer, Real Magic

...The Third Patriarch of Zen Buddhism explained that liberation arises when we are "without anxiety about nonperfections." The world is not supposed to be perfect according to our ideas....The Buddha arises when we are able to see ourselves and the world with honesty and compassion....We learn to see with the heart, which loves, rather than with the mind which compares and defines.
    - Jack Kornfield, A Path With Heart

Eating, Wildness and the Practice of Kindness

At our house we say a Buddhist grace --

    We venerate the Three Treasures (teachers, the wild, and friends).
    And are thankful for this meal
    The work of many people
    And the sharing of other forms of life.

Eating is a sacrament. The grace we say clears our hearts and guides the children and welcomes the guest, all at the same time. We look at eggs, apples, and stew. They are evidence of plenitude, excess, a great reproductive exuberance. Millions of grains of grass seed that will become rice or flour, millions of codfish fry that will never, and must never, grow to maturity. Innumerable little seeds are sacrifices to the food chain. A parsnip in the ground is a marvel of living chemistry, making sugars and flavors from earth, air, water. And if we do eat meat it is the life, the bounce, the swish of a great alert being with keen ears and lovely eyes, with foursquare feet and a huge beating heart that we eat, let us not deceive ourselves.

We too will be offerings -- we are all edible. And if we are not devoured quickly, we are big enough (like the old down trees) to provide a long slow meal to the smaller critters. Whale carcasses that sink several miles deep in the ocean feed organisms in the dark for fifteen years.

...To fully accept our wildness we must embody it, we must take up residence in biological order, to become whole we must live as part of a larger system of plant and animal communities governed by reciprocity. The acid test is this: to see yourself as food. To acknowledge that each of us at the table will eventually be part of the meal is not only being 'realistic.' It is allowing the sacred to enter and accepting the sacramental aspect of our shaky temporary personal being.
    - Gary Snyder, The Practice of the Wild


We have built a system we cannot control. This system imposes itself upon us, and we have become its slaves and victims. Most of us, in order to have a house to live in, a car to drive, a refrigerator, a television, and so on, must pledge our time and our lives in exchange. We are constantly under the threatening pressure of time. In former times, we could afford three hours for one cup of tea, enjoying the company of our friends in a serene and spiritual atmosphere. We could organize a party to celebrate the blossoming of one orchid in our garden. But we can no longer afford to do these things. We say that time is money. We have created a society in which the rich become richer and the poor become poorer, and in which we are so caught up in our own immediate problems that we cannot afford to be aware of what is going on with the rest of the human family.

...When we pick up a Sunday newspaper, we should know that in order to print that edition, which sometimes weighs 10 or 12 pounds, they had to cut down a whole forest. We are destroying our earth without knowing it.
    - Thich Nhat Hanh

Most of us who are in society must be careful, because we can become polluted very easily, particularly when confronted with so many problems. Sometimes we feel hatred, sometimes greed, sometimes we wish for more power, sometimes for wealth. We must be clear with ourselves that we do not need much wealth or power....Religion means deep commitment, and personal transformation. To be of help we must become more selfless and less selfish. To do this, we have to take more and more moral responsibility in society. This is the essence of religion, from ancient times right up to the present.

...To drink Coca Cola, to drink Pepsi Cola, for example, is a great mistake. It is not only junk food, it is exploiting our country economically. Both the Coca Cola Thailand Company and the Pepsi Cola Thailand Company have an ex-prime minister as president. This already makes us suspect something exploitative politically and economically. Culturally, the exploitation is insidious. Pepsi Cola and Coca Cola make the villagers feel ashamed to offer us rain water to drink. They feel they must offer us something in a bottle. And each bottle costs them one day of their earnings.

...The presence of Buddhism in society does not mean having a lot of schools, hospitals, cultural institutions, or political parties run by Buddhists. It means that schools, hospitals, cultural institutions, and political parties are permeated with and administered with humanism, love, tolerance, and enlightenment, characteristics which Buddhism attributes to an opening up, development, and formation of human nature. This is the true spirit of nonviolence.

Bangkok has become a kind of second or third rate Western capital. There is not a single Buddhist value left in Bangkok, except as decoration for tourists, or for mere religious ceremony, and Western urbanization is really beyond our grasp. To me the name Thailand signifies the crisis of traditional Siamese values....This new name also implies chauvinism and irredentism, and I refuse to use it. I prefer the name Siam.
    - Sulak Sivaraksa, Buddhism in a World of Change, from The Path of Compassion


The national policies of the modern world are "states" which maintain their existence by deliberately fostered craving and fear; monstrous protection rackets. The "free world" has become economically dependent on a fantastic system of stimulation and greed which cannot be fulfilled, sexual desire which cannot be satiated, and hatred which has no outlet except against oneself, the persons one is supposed to love, or the revolutionary aspirations of pitiful, poverty-stricken marginal societies. The conditions of the Cold War have turned most modern societies -- both Soviet and capitalist -- into vicious distorters of true human potential. They try to create populations of preta -- hungry ghosts, with giant appetites and throats no bigger than needles. The soil, the forests, and all animal life are being consumed by these cancerous collectivities; the air and water of the planet is being fouled by them....

The joyous and voluntary poverty of Buddhism becomes a positive force. The traditional harmlessness and avoidance of taking life in any form has nation-shaking implications. The practice of mediation, for which one needs only "the ground beneath one's feet," wipes out mountains of junk being pumped into the mind by the mass media and supermarket universities. The belief in a serene and generous fulfillment of natural loving desires destroys ideologies which blind, maim, and repress -- and points the way to a kind of community which would amaze "moralists" and transform armies of men who are fighters because they cannot be lovers.
    - Gary Snyder, The Path of Compassion

...to love is to die to how we wanted it to be, and to open more to its truth. To love is to accept. It is the most extraordinary power.

...I will tell you a secret, what is really important in the practice: true love is the same as awareness. They are identical. Not the near-enemies of "I want" or "I'm in love with," but deeper love than that. True love is to see the divine goodness, the Buddha nature, the truth of each moment, and to say, "Yes," to allow ourselves to open, to accept.
    - Jack Kornfield, A Path With Heart

The Buddha image isn't a picture of the Buddha. It is a tool to help you meditate on the Buddhahood within yourself....The whole mystery is to have the mind submit. It must serve, not dominate, life. That's a major point in so many mythologies. The mind dominating life is really Satan, and life speaking through the mind is the power of Christ. That's basic, that's the Buddha....The bondages from which the Buddha disengaged -- desire, fear, and social duty -- are temporal matters. You can engage in them voluntarily, but compulsive engagement is linked to maya (the veil of illusion, the biological and social urges). If you have gotten that, you have gotten all I can give you....The big lesson in Buddhism, then, the sense of what we have been saying is, "Get away from your rational system and get into the wonderful experience that is moving through all things all the time."
    - Joseph Campbell, from A Joseph Campbell Companion


There is a Buddhist joke about a pilgrim seeking enlightenment. He asks his master how long it will take. The master replies: "Ten years."

The pilgrim protests: "No! No! What if I work really hard?"

"Twenty years," the master replies.

Holy men send their pilgrims towards a physical destination at first because, before enlightenment, the pilgrim needs faith in a tangible objective; but if a pilgrim walks slowly enough, the seven deadly sins fall away, and the Garden of Eden is discovered within him or herself. When one has reached that destination, other destinations seem trivial, even while falling off a cliff.
    - George Grinnell, A Death on the Barrens (I recently interviewed George, and that interview will appear in a future issue.)

For more than 2500 years, Buddhist teachings have elaborated on karma and the twelve stages, or nidanas, which fixate our thinking on the delusion of ego, the struggle of perceiving ourselves as separate from our experience. Craving is the result and the cause of this fixation. And the Buddhist prescription for recovery is clear: get to know your mind, meditate.

...how do we get ourselves into a state of "craving poison as if were food?" I've been taught that craving, with its attendant ignorance and aggression, is the root of human pain....addiction arises as a way of avoiding the boredom and discomfort of the present moment. But my biggest discovery is that there are gaps in my obsessive thinking, gaps that open up to the vast sky of serene awareness that is not fixated on thoughts.
    - From The Sun

Excerpts From Everyday Zen, by Charlotte Joko Beck

The point of relationship is the added power that life gets in working with it as a channel. If two people are strong together, then life has a more powerful channel than it has with two single people. Life doesn't care about your relationship. It is looking for channels for its power so it can function maximally.

When people know their death is close, they often lose the hope that life will turn out the way they wanted it to. Then they can see that life is so delicious -- because that is all there is, this very moment.


Two qualities of Yasutani Roshi struck me most deeply. I would say he was luminous and ordinary at the same time. Looking into his eyes in a formal interview was like looking for ten thousand miles -- there was nothing there. It was amazing. Yet, somehow, in that open space, there was total healing.


My life is a particular form in time and space of Thine, Thy Will....not time or space but their functioning: the growing of a fingernail, the cleansing done by the liver, the explosion of a star -- the agony and wonder of the universe.
    - Charlotte Joko Beck, Everyday Zen

Touching the earth, I let go of my idea that I am this body with a limited life span. I see that this body, made up of the four elements, is not me, and I am not limited by this body. I am part of a stream of life of spiritual and blood ancestors that for thousands of years have been flowing into the present and flows on for thousands of years into the future. I am one with all people and all species, whether they are peaceful or suffering or afraid. At this very moment, I am present everywhere on this planet. I am also present in the past and in the future. The disintegration of this body does not touch me, just as when the plum blossom falls, it is not the end of the plum tree. I see myself as a wave on the surface of the ocean. I am in all the other waves, and all the other waves are in me. My nature is water. The appearance and disappearance of my form as a wave does not affect the ocean. My Dharma body and wisdom life are not subject to birth and death. I see myself before my body manifested and after my body disintegrates. I see how I exist everywhere. Seventy or eighty years is not my life span. My life span, like that of a leaf or a Buddha, is limitless. I have gone beyond the idea that I am a body that is separated in space and time from all other forms of life.
    - Thich Nhat Hanh, Limitless Time and Space

If you try to subdue your selfish motives -- anger, and so forth -- and develop more kindness, more compassion for others, ultimately you will benefit more than you would otherwise. So sometimes I say that the wise selfish person should practice this way. Foolish selfish persons always think of themselves, and the results are negative. But a wise, selfish person thinks of others, helps others as much as he or she can, and receives good results.

This is my simple religion. There is no need for complicated philosophies, not even for temples. Our own brain, our own heart is our temple. The philosophy is kindness.
    - The Dalai Lama, The Path of Compassion

When he was old, I tried to introduce him to the Buddhist doctrine of emptiness; I thought it would ease any anxiety he might have about the imminence of death. "Ultimately," I began, "you never were." "Maybe not," he said peering over the rim of his glasses, "but I made a hell of a splash where I should have been."
    - Stephen T. Butterfield, Of Lineage and Love

Your own karma badly lived is better than someone else's karma lived well.
    - Denise Shekerjian, Uncommon Genius