Internal peace and equanimity

      Through mediation I seek inner peace. I heartily agree with Father Dominique Georges Pire, winner of the Nobel Peace Prize, when he says: "I still think that to be a peacemaker, that is to say a man of peace, one must first be at peace with oneself. One must first achieve inner peace. This involves getting to know oneself and learning to control one's impulses. Only then can a peaceful being approach the immense task of creating harmony between groups and between individuals."
- View From The UN, The Memoirs of U Thant

U Thant was the second Secretary-General of the United Nations after the untimely death in a suspicious plane crash of Dag Hammarskjöld. U Thant served during the Cuban Missile Crisis and the Vietnam War. He was an advocate of environmental protection and major force behind the establishment of Earth Day. His executive assistant, Robert Muller, published a memoir in 1978 entitled Most of All They Taught Me Happiness, in which he discussed U Thant’s personal equilibrium and internal peace, and the contribution of those qualities to world peace. Robert was an early contributor to Heron Dance, and a personal inspiration to me.

When I worked for him, U Thant was for me not only the Secretary General of the United Nations but also a master in the art of living. . . I never heard him speak ill of another person. . . I never heard him complain.  Nor did I ever see him impatient or irritated.  His capacity to endure the shortcomings and errors of other people was boundless.  At nine or ten o'clock in the evening, after seeing dozens of visitors at quarter-of-an-hour intervals and after being bombarded by a succession of insistent problems, he was as calm and controlled as when he arrived in the office in the morning.  Kindness, love, and understanding for his fellow humans were his sole motivations.  Discipline and self-control were his ways.

            Often, in the evening, when I presented him with a problem on which he was asked to make a decision, he simply remained silent.  This was especially the case when difficulties arose between two heads of departments at the United Nations.  Their memoranda requesting resolution often remained unanswered.  U Thant was looking at me patiently with his kind eyes, hoping that I would understand his philosophy.  And I finally did when one day I found myself holding the following language to two high officials, each of whom was looking to the Secretary General for total support:

            "Can't you understand that U Thant will simply not make a decision in favor of either one of you?  Your memoranda will be returned to you unanswered, no matter how often you raise the issue with him, unless you yourself take the initiative in proposing a common course of action.  He feels that you know the answer to your problem much better than he does.  You are well trained and highly skilled officials.  You are expected to solve problems, not to create them.  The UN is preaching understanding and accommodation among nations.  This is the least that can be expected from its officers.  U Thant wishes you to understand that the solution rests between the two of you."

            To my great surprise, the two officials agreed to a mutual solution within minutes.  Both had thought of a common course, but it was to be tried only if neither could score a full victory over the other! 

In my own life, I could better achieve the qualities exhibited by U Thant if I observed the following guidelines:

In making major decisions in life, focus first on establishing the objective. What are you trying to accomplish? Why do you think that will enhance the quality of your life? Second, what is the simplest way of achieving that objective? What course of action and guiding principles would accomplish the objective while requiring the fewest moving parts, the least stress, the least risk, the least expense and overhead? Avoid major change for minor improvement. Avoid conflict over minor issues.

Almost all of the friction with others in my life is the result of taking on too much, unnecessary complexity, not enough rest, and frustration with tasks related to unnecessary objectives that though optimal if accomplished, are unlikely to be accomplished because they lie outside my circle of competence.

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How large a role has internal peace and equanimity played in your life? If you were able to better achieve those qualities, would it enhance the quality of your life? What guidelines, had you followed them, would have led to greater internal peace and equanimity?

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